Christian Dating Online and My Advice

Posted on January 23, 2010 by admin

Christian Dating Match doesn’t always have to be a complicated affair. There are several reasons why a relationship becomes complicated. Often times, relations and dating gets advanced because of different points of view.

When you consider this a little deeper, you understand that the difference in points of view are caused by different cultural backgrounds, different religions, and different family values. It is vital to understand another’s value and belief system right from the onset. Otherwise, the relationship is just waiting for disaster to happen.

When you do that, the distance between you and your date will be less. It is definitely easier to bond with someone who shares similar perspectives, morals and religious ideology.

naturally, different folk have different interpretations of the same religion. As an example, one Christian may interpret the Bible differently from another Christian. But that is’s okay. While we seek God first and have religion in Him we are on the correct path. And after all it is more engaging and fun when buddies don’t think exactly the same way. Individuality makes us unique.

Still, it’s critical to find dating partners that do not live in different worlds. Having different opinions is fine. But having completely opposite view points can lead to fights, quarrels, and finally, break ups. Break ups can be stressful and rather agonizing. For sure, you do not need that to happen to you.

So if you are a Christian, start by attempting to date other Christians. One awfully effective way is to get to know more friends through Christian dating websites.

When you join a Christian dating match web site and you start to make chums, you find that you instantly have some common ground. You can talk about the church that you go to, and what are the newest activities that are going on in your church. Then slowly, bit by bit, you can progress to chat about more personal issues like your family, your buddies, your faculty, your work, and so on. These activities will bring 2 individuals closer together. It’s harder to get that going when you can’t find common ground.

First, you’ll need to register at the site and create your profile. Your profile let others learn more about you.

Once your profile has been made, you can search for other Christians that you want to meet. Who knows, you can just find the love of your life in just a couple of days!

Question by daymo02: Christian dating?
To all of the Christian out there could you tell me about some of your dating experience. Or give me some pointers, you no the do’s and the don’ts of Christian dating.

Best answer:

Answer by rosenmdn
Pray before you date!

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Secret Spark For Greater Love and Intimacy in Your Relationship

Posted on January 22, 2010 by admin

Wendy started counseling with me because Terence, her husband of 14 years, had just expressed to her that he wanted to end their relationship. Wendy, terrified of being alone, was panicked. Within a few minutes of speaking with her in a phone session, I understood exactly the underlying cause of their relationship problems.

Wendy, coming from a family where she experienced much neglect, had a deep abandonment fear. In her family, Wendy had learned to be a caretaker, giving herself up and taking care of everyone else’s feelings and needs. Wendy had learned to put her own feelings in a closet, hoping that if she took care of everyone else, someone would care about her. As an adult, she continued in this pattern, taking care of her husband and children but completely neglecting to take care of herself. As a result, she was often very angry at Terence and her children when they didn’t listen to her or approve of her.

People often end up treating us the way we treat ourselves. Because Wendy was treating herself as if she was unimportant, Terence and her children also treated her as if she was unimportant. Because Wendy didn’t listen to herself, Terence and her children didn’t listen to her. Her fury at Terence and her children for not seeing her or listening to her further alienated them from her. Terence had reached the point where he was no longer willing to be at the other end of Wendy’s anger.

Rather than take emotional responsibility for her own well being, Wendy was making Terence and her children emotionally responsible for her. She was abandoning herself, just as her parents had abandoned her, and was expecting Terence to give her what she never received from her parents.

Terence was also not taking emotional responsibility. He had spent much of their marriage trying to make Wendy happy while ignoring his own feelings and needs. He vacillated between compliance and resistance. When he complied, Wendy felt better but he felt terrible from the sense of loss of himself. When he resisted, Wendy felt rejected and became enraged. Terence ended up feeling like he was a victim of Wendy. He blamed her for his misery and felt he no alternative but to leave.

I ended up working with both Wendy and Terence. Through working with the Six Step Inner Bonding process that we teach, Wendy learned to attend to her abandonment feelings herself rather than go after Terence or her children when these feelings came up. She learned that she was being self responsible rather than selfish when she took responsibility for her own feelings of safety, worth, lovability, happiness and joy, rather than making Terence responsible for making her feel safe and worthy. She learned that when she embraced the responsibility of listening to and taking responsibility for her own feelings, she no longer felt abandoned or angry.

Terence learned that he had another option other than compliance or resistance. He learned to take responsibility for his own feelings by telling Wendy his truth when she yelled at him or blamed him. Instead of being a victim, he learned to stand up for himself and set loving limits on how Wendy was treating him. He learned to say, “I don’t like being yelled at. I don’t want to be with you when you are yelling at me and blaming me for your feelings. If you can’t treat me with caring and respect, then I don’t want to talk with you or spend time with you. I don’t like being with you when you treat me this way.”

At first, Terence was reluctant to say these things to Wendy. He didn’t want to hurt her feelings by telling her his truth. He felt his truth was harsh and that he would be unloving if he said these things. However, when he was willing to take the risk of speaking his truth, he found that Wendy was actually grateful to receive the truth. Rather than getting angry and hurt, she appreciated his honesty, and told him that he was helping her to learn and grow by telling her his truth.

Terence ended up not leaving. Over a period of a year of doing their inner work, their relationship completely changed. In fact, he and Wendy have achieved a new level of love and intimacy in their relationship, beyond what they had when they first fell in love.

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Should I Be Dating Someone With Kids?

Posted on January 21, 2010 by admin

If you are dating someone with kids you will soon find that they cannot always get away without the kids. While you may want your date all to yourself this may not always be possible. Instead of pouting and not getting together, why not have some fun with the kids around? This will be a great way for you to see another side of your love interest and will also allow his or her children to become a bit more familiar with you.


Go to the park. This can be a great way to entertain the kids while you and your honey get a few seconds of snuggling in. Pick a park that has a decent playground, take a blanket, pick up some food on the way, and just go and relax for a couple hours. The kids will eat this up and while they are on the playground playing you will find that you have your date pretty much to yourself as most kids cannot get enough of the play equipment at parks!


Another fun idea if the kids are a bit older is to go to a bowling alley together. This may introduce the kids to a new activity that will really be a lot of fun for them. If they are pretty young you can have the alley put up the bumpers, which may add a whole new level of fun to the game for you and your date, too! This is a great way to get that much needed time in with your love interest while having it be fun for the kids, too!


Go to a movie. Of course, this only applies if the children are older because little ones generally cannot sit through a movie. Let the kids pick the movie, buy them the snacks they all want, and then take advantage of the snuggle time during the movie. You won’t get a lot of chatting done, but it will still put you near your honey for a good couple hours while he or she has their kids in their care.


If possible, visit them at home, but only if your date is comfortable with this idea. Offer to bring dinner and enjoy your date in the presence of their own home. This will allow the kids to also be on their own turf where they are more likely to entertain themselves so you can take advantage of the time with your date. Dinner and a movie in has never been a bad idea!


As you can see, dating with the kids in tow does not have to be difficult or even unromantic. You have to make the best of the situation and you may find that you actually really enjoy the time with your date’s kids as well as your time alone. If you have not been exposed to kids all that much you may find that it takes some getting used to, but the kids may also bring out things in your date that you really like.

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Question by Jessie: Is It Just Me Or Are Kids Dating At Younger Ages?
When I was a child girls and boys usually had their first relationship around the age of 16, but now I’m noticing kids are dating at younger ages every year! I have three daughters, my oldest who is 17 has only had about 3 boyfriends, but my middle child who is in 7th grade has already had 11!!! And my youngest who is in 3rd grade has already have 4! I think that’s crazy. Why do kids feel they need to have a relationship with someone at such a young ages? In my opinion I think that it’s insane, what’s your opinion?

Best answer:

Answer by betty:]
its not just you who realized. MANY people have realized and its bad. In my school(elementary K-8th), kids as young as 6th grade have started dating, which is just wrong.

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Do You Know How To Enjoy Love and Intimacy?

Posted on January 17, 2010 by admin

People who get attracted to each other are people who have things in common. We even unconsciously choose partners who resemble us physically. When a relationship is advancing we use every shared experience to test our compatibility. The shared moments are indications of how well two people can cope with each other. For example if you share the same interest in music, sports and love of nature? If your partner hates country music and you love it to death there might be some fights in which your love and intimacy may be affected in more than one ways. Do you laugh at the same set of jokes? Do you like the same set of friends? If this is the case, your love and intimacy have a great chance of remaining intact till you are both old and grey.

To take your love and intimacy to another level, begin to talk about each other’s dreams and aspirations. An exploration of each other’s ambition shows the willingness to share the future together. It is very romantic to relax under a shade on a sunny Sunday afternoon and start sharing things which are close to our hearts. Personal values and life priorities. It builds intimacy and makes everything possible in the eyes of the two lovers. For instance if you won a £1million, what would you do with it? What have you always wanted to do but you are limited? If you could have only two things with you in the desert, what they be? The answers given are good enough to assess your love and intimacy.

A person who says, “if i won the money, i would buy a beautiful home for us and make sure we have all the comforts in life” is a real soul mate. A person who says “i would buy myself a fancy sports car” is a person who has not been hit by intimacy. A person who does not include their partner in the two things they would take to the desert has to offer a good defensive explanation. It shows that the love and intimacy that you share is not one of the things you treasure in life. What does it tell you when a partner tells you they can only go to the desert with you? It is a very flattering moment where you can’t help yourself but plant a long kiss on them.

As people face life and get older together, they become more self confident. Couple’s priorities may change and we may find that we no longer know the person we once held so dear to us. Do not be scared by the little changes. Your dreams will always bring you back together in the future. There is nothing as sweet as growing old together. Talking about your youthful days and inspirations is always a life-enriching experience. It brings back the love and intimacy and it comes back even stronger. The most crucial thing in a romantic relationship is sharing the same personal values. The love you share for each other is a motivation to make your moments together memorable.

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Question by Zerrah: What is more important to sustain us: sex, love, or intimacy?
We cannot make it very far or be very healthy and happy human beings without all three. But which is more important when it comes down to it? Sex, and one of our most basic physiological needs for release? Love, giving and receiving, love of family, friends, spouse? Or intimacy, the connection we share with those we are closest to? Are sex and love just two very different ways of expressing and seeking intimacy, one physical, one emotional?

Best answer:

Answer by EA
SEX, all the others are just nonsense, useless and waste of time.

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Simple Steps To Greatly Improve Love And Intimacy

Posted on January 9, 2010 by admin
Love and Intimacy
by koke

Who has not been befuddled by love and intimacy? Love and intimacy inspire huge industries, perfume, dating, publishing, movies, and marriage and family counselors have been honing their skills for decades.

I can imagine the first shaman was hired to work up a love spell or potion for a client, 40,000 years ago.

Love and intimacy are important parts of the human experience, so the researchers are researching, and lucky for us, there are now technologies available which allow for the most refined look ever at what the human brain does when it is in love and desiring intimacy. Is it possible to manage love and intimacy?

The researcher most linked with research of that nature currently is Helen Fisher,Ph.D. who has been working on that experience for some 30 odd years, and she has put some just in love brains, some just out of love brains, and some long time in love brains through the unflinching eye of a functional magnetic resonance imaging (fMRI) machine, and she has some ideas about what happens in the human brain, which might give us a chance to direct the love and intimacy experience.

Her most practical suggestion is that we have the best chance for successful romantic love, that early stage of love run by three reward systems in the brain, associated with three powerful hormones, dopamine, oxytocin, and the androgens, if we find a compatible personality type to have ‘chemistry’ with.

While the poets may argue against trying to bring some order to the usually chaotic mating dance, I believe there is something to be said for matching up with a compatible type.

Professor Fisher says that we can find out our type by taking a personality quiz at Chemistry, and if you want to meet some compatible types, then you need to join Chemistry.

Actually folks, the internet has changed how we do marriages in this country anyway. A huge number of couples are now meeting online, which leaves me wondering what the singles bars will do to stay in business.

Professor Fisher’s research has indicated to her that we humans fall into four broad personality types, each associated with a hormone, and we will have a better chance for love and intimacy if we match up with a compatible type, which brings us to the work of Robert Epstein,Ph.D. who has written some interesting articles recently in Scientific American Mind, about love and intimacy in arranged marriages.

Professor Epstein notes that arranged marriages in India, arranged by parents and marriage brokers, with an eye to compatibility and sustainability last and grow in intimacy 95% of the time, compared to our western model which lasts 50% of the time.

Professor Epstein says that love and intimacy can be trained, that you need to do a love and intimacy

workout, if you will, and he offers a number of exercises that couples can do to grow closeness.

So can you imagine doing some ‘soul gazing’, two minutes of looking into your partners eyes, trying to see their soul?

Remember not to stare, which is a threatening non-verbal communication.

Professor Epstein uses this exercise in his class room, and the students participating report a stunning increase in the feeling of closeness after participating.

Professor Epstein also talks about another exercise, where couples work on synchronizing their heart beats, which I have actually done with couples, using a computerized heart rate variability biofeedback tool.

Using the heart rate variability biofeedback tool, it is possible for couples to actually see that their relationship has a heart beat and that heart beat is a very dynamic, alive, and important rhythm to attend to.

That heart beat becomes coherent (cooperative and affiliative) or incoherent (contest, winner and loser) in a heart beat, and couples can become aware of those changes in their love and intimacy heart beat and change back to coherence quickly.

What we learn from using heart rate variability biofeedback is that love and intimacy need to be tuned up heart beat by heart beat.

Doesn’t sound possible? Well, how about attending to love and intimacy regularly, now that you know that your physiology can be adjusted heart beat by heart beat?

Love and intimacy definitely can be worked on much more often than just between fights, and if couples do that, they put what John Gottman,Ph.D., calls emotional money in the bank.

Gottman has studied couples for 30 years, teasing out what it is that the Masters of Marriage do that puts emotional money in the bank.

Turns out there are some parallels with what Epstein in particular argues for.

Gottman has put together a workshop called The Art and Science of Love, which consists of written and video exercises that couples can do together, and can repeat when needed, or maybe even like a workout.

So maybe you do not need to hire a shaman for a potion or a pill or a spell, you just need to practice some of the suggestions that Professors Epstein, Gottman, and Fisher make, to make some sense of the love and intimacy process.

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Question by pretty: pls i want to know the difference between love,intimacy and romance?
my husband tells me that he loves me but he has never given me more than $ 160 to have for myself at a time. he is only happy with me when having sex and he dosent care if i am wet or not.many times i have painful cuts in my private part becos he forced his male organ in and this person can beat me when i annoy him. pls help me i am confused is this love, intimacy or romance? am at a crossroad now.

Best answer:

Answer by Jewells
The $ 160 should be grounds for divorce I tell ya!

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My Best Dating Advice For Singles Using Dating Sites

Posted on January 7, 2010 by admin

Meeting a Stranger Requires Dating Advice

Dating advice carries some useful points for consideration when meeting first time with a stranger. It’s a bit scary to meet face to face someone you have never met before. To form a future alliance, your intention is to find out other person’s nature and their qualities. As a member of ApnaMatch.com, you have so far known each other via the Internet, sending and receiving emails, talking on the phone or maybe by exchanging photos. So far it has been fine, and now both of you have decided to meet.  This article on dating advice may now be helpful. Why not do a free dating registration on ApnaMatch.com for more dating advice.

Show Your Relaxed and Positive Nature Following this Dating Advice

Following good quality dating advice allows you to be confident when going on a date since you will be well placed to handle a multitude of situations as they arise. An important point is to show your positive nature when meeting someone. Think positive and be in an up-beat style. Be honest about whatever you say. Relax and don’t be too intense. Another piece of dating advice isn’t to over criticise something that’s discussed. People who are in demand are likeable and fun to have around. If you are too obsessive, others will tend to avoid you and choose someone else. This and other dating advice are explained in my favourite Indian dating site.

Extra Points for Consideration for Dating Advice

There are so many people around that have tremendous potential. We all like to thrive on the fruites of our labor. Most of us are willing to work hard to achieve success and happiness. This element of this dating advice is to encourage you to achieve your goals. Meet with people who have success stories to tell in their meetings with others and make an indian matrimonial registration with a well established Marriage Bureau.

Intelligent conversation helps to bring relaxation to our minds. People with similar ideas and a win/win attitude will be able to bouce ideas off each other, share aspirations, have intelligent conversations and this will attract them to each other. You should feel positive and others will think you have lots to offer. This bit of dating advice is very important to follow. The face that never smiles isn’t very appealing to others. A smile brings great attraction and other people will assume that you are happy to see them. This dating advice will make them to attract towards you and they will like to spend more time with you. This is how relationship develops and stays on solid footings. ApnaMatch.com site tells a bit more about dating advice.

What to Watch Out For During a Date

Another important point is to stop communicating or meeting if the other person:

Doesn’t keep to the facts or statements made earlier, but gives inconsistent and different versions about their age, qualifications, profession, employment, living accommodation, etc.

Avoids answering reasonable and straight forward questions, though asked repeatedly.

Makes claims that seem extraordinary, or contradictory to what you already know about them.

Doesn’t fancy introducing to their friends and relatives, even though it wasn’t your intention to go for it.

Makes critical and disrespectful remarks or displays physical inappropriate behaviour.

Looses temper and displays frustration quite often and try to dominate and control you; think they are always right and won’t listen to reasonable arguments.

Dating Advice on the First Date

The most important dating advice is that you create your own set of precautions and initiatives which are in your best interest for safety when meeting a stranger. Visit ApnaMatch.com for dating advice and precautionary steps that you must take when meeting the unknown. You are also advised to visit Laj Marriage Bureau to meet professional and business people seeking life partners.

When preparing for the meeting, think about the following points for dating advice:

Leave some details behind with someone that you trust, where you are going and who you’re going to meet. Agree to be home at a certain hour, or to call someone to let them know you will be late.

Make your own transport arrangements to and from a meeting place. If you haven’t met anyone alone before and feel nervous, it may be a good idea and certainly a good dating advice to take someone with you for company.

If you choose to go to a restaurant, don’t opt for expensive dining experience. This piece of dating advice is to save you some money. A simple cup of tea or coffee in a cafe should be fine. You won’t know if the meeting is going to be fruitful and whether you are going to like each other to meet again.

Talk to them about them and listen to their answers. Do ask for clarification if in doubt concerning their important aspects of life like qualifications, job, living arrangements, etc.

If you feel uncomfortable, you have no obligation to stay any longer. Here the dating advice will be to make some excuse, well planned beforehand for such situations to arise, and leave quietly.

Never invite a stranger to your residence, nor go to the other persons place. This dating advice is very important. Don’t give your home or work address or phone number to them. Intelligent and well mannered individuals will appreciate your polite refusal in doing so as you both don’t know enough about each other yet.

You must, however, use your own ‘dating advice’, i.e. precautions and initiatives that are in your best interest.

Visit ApnaMatch.com for dating advice and free membership. There may be hundreds of business and professional people wishing to meet you.

The Tao of Dating: The Smart Woman’s Guide to Being Absolutely Irresistible

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Can Single Women Find a Great Man On A Free Dating Site?

Posted on January 5, 2010 by admin

Free dating websites can be the perfect place for single women looking for dates. It is easy to flirt at cafes, or tease office colleagues, but finding dates online can be even easier. Plus, it is completely safe and costless, and it can be done even from the office. It is not hard to find cute guys in free dating websites, since they usually have their profile, along with their best picture, available. All you need to do is sign up for online dating services, create your own profile so that men can see you, let them know what you are looking for, and you are set for good. Creating your online dating profile can be tricky, but there are some easy tips to follow in order to increase your chances of getting dates online. First of all, make sure you add your picture (make it a nice one) to your profile. Men are looking for women, not Bugs Bunny, so post your own picture instead. It is important to protect some of your personal information such as home address and phone number. Such information is not mean to be published online anyway. You can add concise description about yourself and whom you want to meet. You will be surprised to see how a simple online dating profile you made in less than ten minutes gain responses from a lot of cute looking guys. You can also search for men according to certain traits. Most online dating services provide advanced search options for free, so you can specify your search and find the right date for yourself before you know it. There are lots of gorgeous men out there, all with pictures attached to their profiles, and you will have a great time seeking for the one you like. A friend of mine even create this online dating nights, having her friends sleeping over at her house and browse online dating profiles all night long. Believe me when I say, browsing countless cute guy profiles online is fun indeed. Browsing together with your friends, you will have aids and opinions to help you find the right one. It will be totally exciting for sure. OK. You have created your profile, and you have found the right date candidate, what next? Contact him! You can send pokes, messages, even virtual gifts, hugs, or kisses, and let him know you are interested. It’s just like flirting with a guy offline, only without the risk-of-total-humiliation part. You will get responses instantly, and before you know it, the two of you will be scheduling an offline meet. You have the chance of knowing the guy before meeting him, so it is very convenient and safe. There is no doubt that online dating websites is a great place for singe women to find dates. The entire process of finding dates will be fun, less time consuming, easy, and of course, costless. All you need is an internet connection and a nice cup of coffee. Finding dates doesn’t get any better than this.

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